By Andrew HarnikEditor’s Note: This article was originally published on IGN and is republished here with permission.
The following is a guide for what to do if your kids want to start playing video games, and the best way to do it.
The key to a good relationship with kids is having them feel as though they’re being heard, and having the right kind of conversations with them about what they want to do with their lives.
That means making sure your kids know what they’re doing and what you expect them to do, and being open about what you don’t like about their behavior, so that they can’t make excuses or try to be something they’re not.
“A kid who’s bored in the morning will want to be in the sandbox, but then he’s going to want to spend all day in his house,” said Nick, a father of three from New York City.
“That’s not the kind of relationship I want for my kids.
I don’t want them to spend hours playing with friends.
I want them at home.
It’s a whole different kind of life.”
In addition to playing video and reading to them, the key to keeping your kids happy is to keep them engaged.
“They’re going to have to start having a conversation with their parents,” said Jon, a mother of four from Virginia Beach, Virginia.
“You can’t have kids who want to sit around and talk about it.”
If your kids don’t have a parent to play with, then it’s up to you to keep the conversation going.
“I love the way parents are at work,” said Jake, a family friend in Massachusetts.
“They just sit there and have a conversation.
That’s what my kids want.
I just don’t need them sitting around and talking.”
There are certain ways to have the conversation that kids will want, said Nick:Talking about things that matter to them.
And if they want a toy or a game, the first thing you want to talk about is whether or not you’re going there.
“Kids want to play and they don’t mind talking about things.
It makes the world a better place,” he said.
“It makes everyone feel more comfortable.
And it’s a great way to get their parents to start asking questions.”
As parents, you have to be able to listen to what your kids are saying, because otherwise you can’t be sure that they’re listening to you.
“If you’re just sitting there and just letting them go, they’re going away,” said Josh, a dad of four in Connecticut.
“I want them going home and having a good time.
And then I want to have a discussion with them.”
When you’re the parent, you also have to do your best to get your kids to be a good listener, said Jake.
“Parents need to be good at this,” he added.
“And if they’re too good, they don,t know it.
They don’t get it.”